Balancing Life, Work and Family

I have so many things I want to do. For some reason, I just can’t commit and spend time on any of them. Instead of picking one thing I have five and none of them are getting the attention that they truly need. Rather, I’m working a full-time job, that I really don’t like, and it’s just dragging me down. I get emails from work and I just want to ignore them because I don’t care, I get home from work and I’m so deflated that I just want to sit on the couch and watch TV. I feel lazy and unmotivated which I hate.

I don’t mean to complain. I hate to be negative. But I’m just feeling tired and discouraged and like I have no real path.

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The one thing I do know is I love my family and I want to spend as much time as I can with them. I just don’t know how to do that, have an income, and not feel like I’m just going through the motions.

Here is a thought: If I spend a half an hour on each end of the day I might be able to do some of those things I like to do while still working my desk job until I can figure out my next move. Hmmm… I think that’s gonna be my plan. I’m gonna try and get up a half an hour earlier to work out every day and then at night I’m going to try and spend a half an hour working on a passion projects whatever that may be, maybe it’s this blog maybe it’s a Podcast idea, maybe it’s becoming a health coach. But I’m gonna spend a half an hour at night, a couple times a week, trying to figure out what I truly want to do. To be fair to myself I’m going to try and do it 3-4 days a week so that I don’t put so much pressure on myself to do it every single night. I know that’s unrealistic and if I miss one night, I am the type of person who would just give up and say it’s not possible.

Balancing Life Work and Family

Hopefully this will help me feel like I’m doing more for myself and making a plan for my future doing something I truly want to be doing. It’ll make me a happier person and in return a better wife and mother which is ultimately all I want.

Here’s to giving it a try! I will let you know how it goes 🙂

 

Digging Deeper into Acheiving goals

Today we have a great post from Kara! She took a look at my goals for 2015 and is pushing me to go deeper, think harder and take steps to help me accomplish everything I want to in 2015. Read on… its very helpful and interesting!

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Goal setting. 2015 here we come! Mattie’s goals for the following year are awesome and I will tell you it is crucial to write them down. In my 5 years of being a personal trainer I have learned the difference between two types of goals: outcome goals (long term goals) and behavior goals (short term goals).

Outcome goals are the goals that you realistically cannot control unless you change something about your current actions which we all know is really difficult to do. So now you’ve set a goal but how do you get there? What is your action plan? Insert behavior goals. They are the every day or every week goals you set in place that you CAN control with the outcome goal in mind. Create a specific and manageable action plan.

The personal trainer in me has added some examples to Mattie’s goals to not only help her reach them but to give everyone an idea of how to be more specific so that when 2016 rolls around you can read back and see that yes, you accomplished every goal you had.

1. Practice more yoga – I love yoga but I always struggle getting to class. I am a happier, healthier and  more balanced person when I do yoga so I want to make an effort to incorporate yoga into my weekly routine.

How are we going to ensure that you go to yoga? What does more yoga mean? How much? This is where behavior goals come in. I am going to practice more yoga by buying a yoga package that expires in a short period of time. Or going to yoga with a friend (me?). Or telling everyone on the blog that you are attending a yoga class at X location at X time and would love if people joined AND taking a photo at class to show you went. (Just an idea 🙂 ) {Wanna go to North End Yoga with me? Pleeeeaaase}

2. Run more races – Running is my go-to form of fitness. It instantly boosts my mood and clears my mind. In 2015, I want to run more races (I am thinking a half marathon, and a few short distances too) and work to improve my speed and endurance.

Running is an amazing form of exercise but what races do you want to do? (Run to Remember 1/2 marathon Memorial Day weekend?? I’m doing it!) What running plan will you be on to improve speed and endurance? Check out the calendar and register ASAP. That way you can plan your running schedule and you are much less apt to bail especially if there is an entry fee. Also set a goal time! {ok ok, I am going to sign up for 2 half marathons today…}

3. Volunteer – I would love to give back and help others in whatever way possible.

What organizations would you like to volunteer for? Who are you going to contact? Start with one location to volunteer at, schedule it and blog about it. {done and done… I just signed up to be a volunteer with the YES Foundation to ski with inner city kids a few weekends this winter}

4. Take a trip (on a plane) – Vinnie and I drive all around New England but I would like to go on a plane, take a trip and really experience another part of the country (or world!) with him

Where do you want to go? (Insert awesome honeymoon location!) Pick a week or weekend, book the flight and make it happen. Two months ago I decided to book a 10 day trip to Italy in June 2015 after 10 years of saying I was going to do it. I about had a heart attack but it was important enough for me to have talked about for 10 years and it was (is) a goal of mine so I am making it happen. {Yes, we need to plan and go on our honeymoon.}

5. Grow the blog – I have high hopes for Comfy & Confident in 2015. I want to connect with more people in the blogging community, grow my readership and continue to enjoy sharing my journey!

How are we going to grow the blog? Who are we going to affiliate with, contact, represent, etc? A great way to grow the blog would be to have a fundraising team for an organization that we believe in. A Comfy and Confident TEAM that would ideally include all of you! {I like that idea!}

Make your goals as specific as possible. Write out a schedule, check list or create a calendar and at the end of the day or week, make sure you are staying on track. Changing your behavior and your mindset to what you can do in the moment to reach your goal is the key to getting there. It’s worked with my clients and I know it can work with all of you!

Mattie and I would love to see what goals you have planned for 2015 and the specific steps/actions you are taking to get there!

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Success is the sum of small efforts

I am going to have to take a closer look at my goals and really take action towards accomplishing them. Off I go… ~Mattie

 

 

Goal Setting for 2015

Happy New Year

It’s that time of year again! Time for New Year resolutions and new goals. A lot of times, I find myself considering unrealistic goals like lose 20 pounds (even though, I haven’t lost a pound in the last year)… or do Crossfit, and yoga, and a run a marathon, and a Half Ironman (that’s not humanly possible while working a 9-5, blogging and having a life!)… or stop drinking (… ya, ok!).

When thinking about setting your 2015 resolutions, we need to be realistic and reflect on the previous year to help guide our goals. Set challenging goals, but not ones aimed so daunting that you’ll feel overwhelmed & defeated before you can even see results/improvements. A person’s motivation for change lasts about 2 weeks, so we need to make goals that will allow us to push past that barrier and continue to improve.

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Here are a few ways to set challenging but achievable goals for 2015:

Be Realistic: I touched on it above, but if you’ve never worked out before, setting a goal to run a marathon is probably not the best place to start. Not to say such things can’t be done, but lofty goals often fall to the wayside for other more achievable ones. Set challenging goals, but not so daunting that you’ll feel overwhelmed & defeated before you can even see results/improvements.

Visualize: Visualization is essential in reaching your goals! Start now by seeing yourself exactly where you want to be: happy, healthy, vibrant, comfortable, confident and achieving your goals! Create a mental picture of what your best year will look like and visualize it every morning, throughout the day and every night.

Create a Pinterest Board: One of the best ways to help with visualization is to create a vision board. This helps keep you focused, motivated and accountable. Find inspirational quotes or motivational images that resonate with what you desire to do and pin them to a Pinterest Board – mine is called Get Lean & Fit Motivation! I am sure you can be more creative than that! {you can always make a secret board and have it private if you don’t want to share your vision board. 

Write Down your Goals: Putting your goals down on paper helps make it feel real! Read your list often, and don’t be reluctant to change, alter or add to it whenever the mood strikes!

Relax: Everyone is their own worst critic and don’t fall into that trap. Be easy on yourself! No one changes overnight. Goals are set because they take time & effort.

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With that, here are a few of my goals for 2015:

  1. Practice more yoga – I love yoga but I always struggle getting to class. I am a happier, healthier and  more balanced person when I do yoga so I want to make an effort to incorporate yoga into my weekly routine.
  2. Run more races – Running is my go-to form of fitness. It instantly boosts my mood and clears my mind. In 2015, I want to run more races (I am thinking a half marathon, and a few short distances too) and work to improve my speed and endurance.
  3. Volunteer – I would love to give back and help others in whatever way possible.
  4. Take a trip (on a plane) – Vinnie and I drive all around New England but I would like to go on a plane, take a trip and really experience another part of the country (or world!) with him
  5. Grow the blog – I have high hopes for Comfy & Confident in 2015. I want to connect with more people in the blogging community, grow my readership and continue to enjoy sharing my journey!
  6. Cook more – I love to eat healthy and try new foods, but I find myself eating the same thing over and over again. I would like to challenge myself to try new recipes and explore new and different foods in 2015.

What are your goals for 2015?? I would love to hear them!
Sharing always helps to hold me accountable!